I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Gymgirl71! I have already replied to your other thread so I won't repeat myself too much here! I agree with what all the other wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could! You've been given lots of great, wonderful advice and insight on this thread! I'd suggest to follow it as much as you can if you can and want! You deserve MUCH better than him! Please dump him as soon as you can! You don't have ANY obligation to help him! It seems like you've already understood that by now, and that's wonderful, but don't just SAY it! DO IT! Leave him right now! It doesn't take much! Just send him a message and tell him that it's over! Done! You don't have any obligation to do more than that! It's more than enough! It's literally a matter of minutes! Please just text him and tell him this as soon as you finish reading this thread! The soone you act, the sooner you'll be free! Like we've ALL said to you earlier, you deserve MUCH better than him and you WILL get someone that will truly love you and understand you and respect you for who you truly are! Just remember to recognize this pattern you're following so you'll avoid falling into it again in the future! Do you see a therapist? Maybe that could help! You could learn new ways to cope with your feelings! I'm so sorry you're going through all of this! It must not be easy! Just get rid of him and this relationshop and you'll be able to start out again fresh! Please just leave him as soon as you can! It's for your own health, good and well-being! I'm sorry you have to deal with all of this, Gymgirl71