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Old Apr 08, 2019, 02:41 PM
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Originally Posted by susannahsays View Post
I think it was an apt comparison. Well adjusted people usually don't become drug addicts, either, and to insinuate that it's somehow "better" to be addicted to the endorphins or whatever that are released from one unhealthy behavior than another seems judgemental. I think you might be projecting your own feelings about drug addiction onto this therapist, EM. And yes, I think the support and acceptance offered by ex-MC were unhealthy. They were fake. The feelings LT experienced in response to the external stimuli of these fake reassurances are in fact similar to the relief a drug user feels when they use. It is not normal. There's a difference between healthy connection and what happened with ex-MC.

I'm not sure they were necessarily fake, per se. However, I don't think they served my best interest. Particularly being in marriage counseling, shouldn't he have been trying to help us figure out how H could support me in that way? It did feel like a drug at times. Where I'd be reaching out to him via email or text to get a fix. And felt almost withdrawal the day after seeing him. I think T is trying more to model a healthy connection as compared to ex-MC. He once said that ex-MC seemed enmeshed with me. And I'd agree with that.
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