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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee
The relationship itself wasn't healthy, but I place the blame for that squarely on ex-MC. It was his responsibility as a therapist to keep it from going off the rails, and he failed miserably. My point is that Dr. T seemed to be pathologizing the urge to connect and feel deeply understood. It's not about the trainwreck that the relationship ultimately became but about the deeper meaning behind why it happened in the first place.
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I don't really think blame has to do with why his behavior was appealing in the first place. And of course I'm not blaming LT for what he did. But there is a difference between having an urge to connect, and having a void, which is the word LT herself used to describe how she felt.
Lots of people say they have a void inside of them, and people deal with it in different ways. Some people do drugs. Others try to fill the void with food. Still others jump from relationship to relationship or have meaningless and unsatisfying sex with strangers looking for something to fill the void. Just because LT isn't going around sleeping with strangers or shooting up heroin doesn't actually mean she feels less pain than someone who does cope with the void that way. In not "pathologizing," I think there can be a risk of minimizing the issue.