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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee
The relationship itself wasn't healthy, but I place the blame for that squarely on ex-MC. It was his responsibility as a therapist to keep it from going off the rails, and he failed miserably. My point is that Dr. T seemed to be pathologizing the urge to connect and feel deeply understood. It's not about the trainwreck that the relationship ultimately became but about the deeper meaning behind why it happened in the first place.
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I didn't take it as pathologizing at all. (Not trying to change your view-just adding mine.)
Before I read your reply, I thought drug addiction was an apt analogy in this context. In the conversation, both T and LT say they don't understand where the intense longing feelings comes from--it doesn't make sense. I see a strong similarities with drug addiction--it doesn't make sense, either, why someone would make a white powder, for example, so important that you'll let it take over your life. It's that powerful. Transference can be that powerful, too, and can take over your life.
I also see it as a stark indicator that those feelings had little to do with MC himself; rather, they have everything to do about past hurts and unresolved developmental issues. Little LT.
Transference is intense and powerful. Transference distorts and can 'blind you' to reality. People with severe drug addiction can seem they are under some kind of spell, disconnected from reality, which is normally referred to as being in denial. Transference, when that intense, leads to reality disconnect as well.