Why do you feel any need to compete? Are you looking st relationships as a competition rather than a team work?

Why does it bother you that someone might be a good singer? What significance does it have in regardless to what kind of partner one might be?

If you need to fight for guys’ attention regardless if it is because of a cat or something else it’s because they are not fully emotionally available or just aren’t that interested not because they have a cat.

I think you are focusing on superficial traits rather than perhaps looking at a bigger picture?