I've never had promises made that were broken...I've never had T backtrack because firm boundaries have always been in place...loose boundaires may sound so sweet and endearing..but are they really?...who pays the final price?...boundaries are there for a reason and many posts here validate that reason...they may be very difficult to work through as difficult as thinking we're getting something when infact we never were??....I think a good enought T is there to witness our growth not to direct at what speed and when it should happen...a good enought T that has enought confidence in their abilties and the process are ok with firm boundaries because they at the end of the day are what work...I'm sorry for those that do not recieve this level of proffessionalism..