This is just a big, long rant, since I've already decided what I'm going to do. Read it if you're bored or something.

I've had this friend. I like to give people names, so I like to call her Michelle. She's two years younger than me, making her 14. She's always been sort of a problem for me. She's headstrong and argumentative by nature, but so am I, so I can't blame her there. The problem is, she's been irrational in the past, and she's being BEYOND irrational now.

The past two weeks, my mother and my one friend (I'll name her Sarah) had been planning a surprise party for me. It WAS a surprise for me, although if I hadn't been quite so oblivious, Michelle could've blown it for everyone.

Originally, my mother had told Sarah not to tell Michelle about the party up front. Since I talk to Michelle so often and she lives so close, my mother thought it'd be a bad idea to tell her at first. But, through a separate friend, Michelle found out about it before she was supposed to, and immediately got upset with Sarah. Sarah informed my mom that Michelle was giving her trouble. So my mom and Michelle's mom have a talk. My mom tells her mom, "I don't want Michelle to get upset with Sarah over this. She was under my direction." The excuse from Michelle was that she really didn't think I'd like a surprise party.

So at some point, for a completely unrelated reason, Michelle lets it slip that Sarah and my mom are emailing back and forth. I ask my mom about this, and she gets paranoid. She thought the secret was out. So this deserved another call to Michelle's mom. This time my mom's message was, "Please tell Michelle not to say anything else about it." She didn't want Michelle to ruin it for me. Michelle's mother backed her 100%, called my mother insane, told her she was assuming things, and acted incredibly immature.

Well, I didn't know this until AFTER Michelle left the party (which WAS a surprise, by the way). I had no idea any of this went on until after everyone went home. By that point I was already mad at Michelle.

See, as soon as Sarah left the party, Michelle was talking about her in the most terrible way. I didn't understand why she was so upset, but I told her to stop because I didn't want to hear it. It took her way longer than it should have to drop the subject.

Eventually it was down to me, Michelle, and a different friend. She and him live close to me, but Michelle got a phone call from her parents saying they were going to pick her up. She said to my other friend in a really bratty tone, "Party's over. Didn't YOUR parents call YOU? Time to go home." He said, "I guess I'll just be walking." "This is ridiculous," she snapped. Of course, not a minute later, his parents DID call and say he was getting picked up, so...

On her way out the door, Michelle muttered something I couldn't hear. I was going to ask her to repeat that, but my dad beat me to it. He said, "What did you say?" "Nothing, I need to get my coat." "You said something." I saw her open her mouth again as she left, and I said, "Another snarky comment on your way out the door?"

I thought she'd have enough self-control not to be such a brat at my party, but I was mistaken. On a day when I should have gone to sleep thinking about how much I love my friends, I had to think about how much I was upset with one of them.

When I told her I was upset with her behavior and why, she immediately blamed Sarah and my parents. As if that would go over well. She wouldn't accept responsibility for her behavior, and she never has, so I decided not to talk to her anymore. It's unhealthy for me to be her friend.

Well, now she decides to harrass everyone possible. Sarah especially, even though Sarah has nothing to do with why I'm mad at her. Michelle is so wrong on so many levels.

She's overconfident, thinking we'll be friends again. Nooo way. She's drowning in her own pool.
She says the friendship isn't over until she says it is. It "has to be mutual." Yeah, right. This is the thought process of an abusive, socially-stunted person.
She threatened to come down to my house to talk to me. As if I'd open the door.
When I talked with Sarah and other people about her, I got a text saying, "Don't talk about me. It's just rude." I thought about saying "What's my motivation to be nice to you?"

I'm not saying anything to her, and I'm encouraging people like Sarah to do the same thing. But her behavior is unpredictable, irrational, abusive, and almost psychotic. She threatened to "confront" Sarah at school today, whether with words or fists, I don't know. She didn't show, but still... If she really thinks I can be her friend, while she digs her grave ever deeper, she has no sense.

This is an unhealthy relationship for me. She doesn't deserve me, and I don't deserve her. I've decided what I have to do, and I can't really take advice on the situation since I'm not communicating with her, but I still fear for my friends. This is just so out of control (SHE'S so out of control), and I had to get it out somewhere.