I had a friend that had opted for CBT, she would call me self indulgant for the kind of feelings processes I talk to her about..one day she gave me an example of her therapy that day, she said that she had mentioned about wanting her mother so bad but her mother ignoring her plea's she had taken it to mean something about her...her CBT therapist had said to her, what if your mother wasn't ignoring your crys but was busy thinking of something else??? My friend seem to think that changed everything, then I said, what if your mother wasn't busy thinking other things and had ignored your crys?...my friend stopped and looked at me...I asked her how that would have felt?....she didnt want to contemplate that..she wanted a solution that was simple, easy...