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Originally Posted by TheNightWhistle
I've been in abusive relationships before, and I've had people that are only friends with me because there's something in it for them. These things can be that I babysit their dog, provide them with cigarettes and alcohol, just someone to listen to them talk and give them attention, or they just wanna get in my pants. My lonely and delusional mind always ignores these things because I don't want to face the fact that people don't really love or care about me.
So my question is, what are some of the signs in communication that prove that a relationship with someone is genuine, and that they honestly care about you?
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it's really a lot of things and not something that has a simple answer to. I mean there are a lot of aspects of a relationship that will show you these things and they vary for each relationship and individual.
I think deep down inside you know the answers. Just look at what you've described and you know right there that these are the things people do that are selfish and are out to further their own ends not yours. So if you stop and ask yourself what the opposite of this is... you have the answers.
Those that are your friends not due to what you can give them, those that think of your needs and desires, those that allow you to get to know them on a deeper level than just services you offer and such but for you, to know you and to open themselves up to you without conditions.
There's a lot more that can be said about it but your answers will start with you asking the right questions - and analyzing what you do know, that is what NOT to look for in a friend.