I assume he's an ex-T, but what about asking if you can come in and look at the notes, booking a session if that is what he's willing to do? The issue is sometimes more about you having a copy of the notes and the implications of that (i.e. ruminating on them, etc) for your supposed mental health as opposed to you looking at them.


I looked at my notes for about 10 minutes once in a session, it was a spontaneous thing and T just put me in front of his computer. In retrospect I know that they are not revealing at all of my identity (a para for each session) and that is comforting to know, they have no detail of my life. They were upsetting because I realized all the times I'd avoiding something, that it wasn't my T's forgetfulness, I wasn't pulling anything over on him by failing to mention something I was trying to bring into session and work on. If the question is whether the notes revealed "what he really thought about me", then they were thoroughly useless.