Yes I do have kids. However the "hot topics" have been settled. Custody and money. We dont want or need lawyers involved. It isnt like that.

More so it is the petty squabbling and jabs at each other. Not in front of the kids. They have no idea yet and it isnt their burden anyways. They are a big reason why amicable is so important to me. There is no option to just walk away and never see each other again.

We had a great friendship and marriage. We dont hate each other. I would simply like to keep it that way. We have changed and grown apart and it is an adjustment for both of us.

My spouse asked me how we keep from shredding each other in response to hurt, changes and stress. I got so far as avoid each other than stalled.

In regards to why I posted in this section it is because main forums get more traffic than sub forums. It was intentionally placed and my preference would be for it to stay here for now. This isnt the throw down, no holds bar seperation we normally hear of. I want to be friends at the end.