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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66
How on earth is this being manipulative. It is she who is responding to the actions of the OP. Are you suggesting she ignore them? Is her business to be held hostage while she waits for the client to show up or not? And, to stir the pot here, are you all also suggesting the OP's irresponsibility and actions are permissible without repercussions?
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This T is being very manipulative. The T is a separate person-her behavior is irrespective of what the client does. This T's behavior/reaction is not the client's responsibility or fault.
In addition to what feralkittymom said, the therapist is taking an action to try to influence/get the client to do something. It's controlling. And engaging in the client's pattern is acting out--this is the very type of thing that leads to enmeshment with a T and client.
Feeling like being held hostage would come from the T, not the client. And yes, the client does deal with the consequences-the missed session, lack of support, missed session fee, whatever else. Engaging in the pattern-enmeshment-leads to more problems. Letting the client have autonomy to work the issue out will likely result in the issue running it's course on its own.