I would like to clarify to all. This was not a post about phone calls.

My intent was to describe what children do when they are faced with insurmountable and unmanageable feelings (they dissociate, split,etc.) and how we face those feelings in adult life and recreate them in therapy, and in fact, in all sorts of situations. In therapy, it is okay and in fact desirable to face those feelings so we can experience them in a way we could not as children. In this way, we can integrate them, in an effort towards wholeness. Recently, in my case, the rupture surfaced surrounding phone calls. T and I worked through this together so that we are both now very comfortable with the structure of our relationship and I get what I need from him in order to continue working through very difficult feelings and emotion. But I DID experience the rage and anger of a young child. We both agreed that it was really old anger I was feeling.

Anyway, I just wanted to share these insights. You know, it's just not about the phone calls.