VETT: From past experience, I'd say that five months is probably not long enough to really know a person. And it's disastrously soon to expect a woman to decide on a new relationship when she's still in the rebound state.

I feel it's always wise to protect children from becoming attached to persons who might be abruptly leaving their lives at any time. In fact, I'd never begin to integrate lives until the decision has been made to marry, with the reservation that it has to work out with the children in order for there to be a marriage.

What's the rush? If this is going to fall apart, better it do so without hurting the children emotionally. Am I wrong to think that it would be loving and mature to give this wonderful woman whatever space and time she needs? And why would you want to push her into dealing with an "ex" --- when she still needs to get to know you more? I think that the union of two people who both have ex spouses and the issue of child support in the equation is very difficult at best.

I think it's possible you may scare this woman away by making "integration" demands so soon.

Just my opinion.

Adieu