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Originally Posted by resurgam
we are only getting one side of the story...not the therapists side as well. not saying you are lying but sometimes going into therapy is a charged situation and the responses you get from the therapist and what you "hear" are two different things.
yea you might be missing empathy for people whose job it is to talk folks off the ledge...and maybe they weren't super nice to you, or gave you rainbows and hugs and jellybeans or what ever you felt you needed at the time, but instead, offered you what you really needed. only perhaps you weren't in a place to KNOW that because you were calling a suicide/help line. usually when most reach that point, clear thinking isn't a strong point. perhaps they offered clear, precise points of things to do. you didn't like it and they were then awful.
not everyone is going to respond to a crisis help line the same way. the responders do their best with what they have....their goal is to keep you alive and to judge if more response is needed to do that. that takes a toll.
you were a caller who may not have got the warm fuzzy rainbow response they wanted but obviously what ever you got worked because you are still here to write and complain about services offered. sorry I agree with your therapist altho I probably would have addressed it differently .
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Hi Resurgam,
Thank you for sharing your insight. But I wholeheartedly disagree with you.
In regards to the bold: that is the most invalidating thing I could possibly hear, but I welcome differing opinions. You are stating that it was a matter of my perception and my mental illness that is the problem - not that distress lines are capable of being imperfect and causing retraumatization / irreparable harm. I completely disagree with your comment. My therapist was assuming that my anger towards ineffective distress lines is a matter of lack of empathy, when in fact the distress line failed to offer empathy and so did my therapist. But I appreciate your opinion nonetheless. You say you are only hearing my side of the story - this is the entire story. I have not withheld any information as I am seeking objective opinions about whether or not my therapist was appropriate in saying this. I welcome your opinion but I disagree.