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Old Apr 11, 2019, 07:10 PM
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Originally Posted by eskielover View Post


I set my boundaries on my needs not expectations I have of orhers. Difference may just be semantics.

I can clearly communicate what I need from someone but that is not necessarily an expectation of them as they can clearly comply or not with what I need. I HOPE they will but I do not expect it.
I think I agree with this. But honestly I’m not sure of much right now.

I try to communicate honestly and kindly with people. I don’t always (or even ever) tell them what I need from them. Other than with a very few close friends, This is maybe where I have been going wrong.

And I make mistakes. The maternal unit said I was “always” making mistakes. Maybe I did make a lot of mistakes. So did she,.............. I wish I could have a make over.. I wish I could rid myself of all my “flaws” like being “needy” etc. All I can do is try to be the best bear I can be each day. If someone thinks I’m a “bad” person then I have to cut all contact with them for my safety.

Respect and love to all in this thread.
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