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Apr 11, 2019, 08:36 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 25,085
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I try to communicate honestly and kindly with people. I don’t always (or even ever) tell them what I need from them. Other than with a very few close friends, This is maybe where I have been going wrong.
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Fuzzy.....I usually don't tell people what I need either. Basically I just observe & try to connect with people. I want them to be themselves without having stated expectations or boundaries. If a problem does come up ONLY then will I communicate the problem & what I see needs to be addressed....then discuss it. Otherwise the other person may just constantly wonder if they are pleasing me. What a horrible stress that would be on a friendship. If it turns out thst there are too many problems constantly occuring in a relationship then I have to decide whether it is worth continuing, whether to distance or end the relationship totally.
No you are not doing it wrong 
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Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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