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Apr 12, 2019, 10:37 AM
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Member Since: Apr 2014
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Originally Posted by unaluna
"It's not for me." I think that yes, we ARE allowed to say that. Like people in my apartment complex were having these tiny dinners where they seemed to invite only crazy people. You know, all the lonely single ladies over 60. Then i realized i may be alone, but im not lonely? And that the others are much busier socially than i am, so who is entertaining whom? And that i didnt want to listen to any of their egotistical stuff. Plus it was very hard on me to prepare my part of the potluck, and to break up my week to take the time to attend. So i stopped going.
Now, lately, as i have rid myself of such obligations, and my t, i am surprising myself with my newfound health and energy as i follow MY schedule inclinations. No more static-y demands in my head. If only i could have had this my whole life.
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Allowing yourself to finally say that is so empowering, right? But I would go one step farther. I actually want to say "I don't like/enjoy this." Even saying "it's not for me" feels like I'm tiptoeing around someone else's fragile ego. If someone isn't mature enough to handle that I don't like their group environment or whatever that it's about my likes/dislikes, and it's perfectly fine for them to like it.
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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