[I worry if the thermostat in his room is adjusted right and if he's got the channel he wants on the TV. It's occurring to me that there are staff there to help him, and they should be able to handle those things. And he should be able to ask for help from them, instead of just wanting me to come in and fix everything. I'm supposed to be getting a break, some rest and "catch up" time. I've brought in lots of clean clothes and other things. I'm very tired and, tomorrow, I should have time for what I need to do. I think I need to back off a bit from worrying about every little thing for him.]

I absolutely support you in heading in this direction, Rose. To my mind, it's inspiring. It's healthy. It's the best thing in the world for you.

But that doesn't mean it's easy. You've spent so much time in taking care of his needs that it's consumed all of your waking (and probably sleeping!) hours. It'll take some time to get used to. But while you're still devoting yourself to his needs, just try and devote some time to your own as well. You may have to make a real effort to do this at first, because it probably won't come naturally to you, because you're a giver.

(((( HUGS ))))