I like a lot of this but I sort of disagree with some of it. I disagree that we are responsible for how we feel. IMO: we aren't responsible for HOW we feel but how we REACT to how we feel. We feel what we feel. The article is right that our context will dictate how we feel about something, but we cannot control how we feel about something; therefore, we are not responsible for how we feel, but rather, we can control how we respond to our feelings, and therefore to our response/reaction.

Example: I cannot change that I am offended by something you said, but I can control how I respond to you about it.

Otherwise I think it's spot on. I feel it's very detrimental to tell people they can control how they feel. In my opinion that's telling them to negate how they feel and not deal with their actual feelings but to ignore them or superimpose some other artificial feeling on top of it. That's just my take.