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Old Apr 12, 2019, 02:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Emily Fox Seaton View Post
This kind of hits a note with me too because I feel like if the world was expected to be more considerate and held to higher standards I wouldn't have the problems I do. I feel like I was trained from a young age to be well mannered and a "gentlewoman" to use the old age terminology and I get stick to death of hearing I should just let less than that get away with things.


However, I have a friend who is an extrovert and straight up truly isn't this way and doesn't seem to get upset at whatever other people do... just rolls right off his back. In a way I resent him but recognize that everyone is different about their expectations.


I just wish I could move to high standard world.
This stood out to me, in regards to things 'rolling off backs'. IRL, I am that type where things don't seem to phase me. I'm calm in what seems like an emergency. For me, it's a lifetime of some type of internal defensive mechanism. It's a coping skill created through much hurt feelings through the years and whatever else lays beneath the surface of my life story.
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