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Originally Posted by Sheffield
I’ve come many weeks late to this thread so the forum likely moved on but some thoughts anyway
No comment on my life or therapy experience so as not to derail
Majority of responders see this therapists comment as a big”red flag”-100 percent black and white fault
That may or may not be the case but as trauma survivors ( we are all still here if participating in this thread) we aren’t victims of every other “triggering” or retraumatising comment or situation in life-we don’t have a get out of jail free card and we do have responsibility in how we interact with others whether intentional or not.- if our comments are received negatively there has to be introspection after the event however “traumatised “ we feel— this is a hard and painful and oftimes lonely perspective to take from a place of pain but for me it is so important to move from victim to survivor mentality as there will always be another trauma around the corner
there is venting and venting and without being exposed to it I don’t believe I can comment on the therapists comment apart from the fact one can consider oneself to be an empath but still be inappropriate on occasion
On a personal note- I can retch from a look but I would not have been offended by the therapists comment- it would have stopped me in my tracks
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I don’t see that HD was feeling
Like a victim. I think he was hurt and it’s brought back old hurts. I’m kinda in agreement that we can move from victim to survivor but I think that depends upon healing the old hurts so that you can move on. Some of us have suffered more trauma than others so it’s easy to say that as an outsider, but in some cases repeated and retraumatizing events can become a roadblock to being able to push back against others assessment of our pain.
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