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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
If you have to mention alcohol consumption that means THERE IS A PROBLEM. This man's real relationship that he seems to be powerless over is with his addiction to the Alcohol.
This man who is now 45 years old never learned how to grow up and take control of his life. When you are doing that FOR him, you are being an enabler and a codependent. There is NO true relationship when someone is already involved in a relationship with alcohol. His weekend off from you will most likely be that of cozying up with his alcohol and maybe his drinking buddies, HE WON'T miss you other then maybe you picking up after him and mothering him.
HE has to admit he has a problem and WANT to change that about himself, nothing YOU can do about it either. This weekend off, what are YOU going to do, sit and pout and vent about how you deserve a better partner? Yes, you do deserve a better partner but you are not going to have that until you rid yourself of this dead weight partner that insists on putting his relationship with alcohol before you. Go to an alanon meeting and sit and listen to others that had to learn this lesson and they will all tell you, "run" and get your own life while you are still young enough to find a healthier partner.
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He has stayed in touch with me via text and phone calls. However, this is who he is. Alcohol will always be his priority and we’re not on the same page..I believe he was always like this but it just took longer to surface..I know how alcoholics behave too when they don’t have a drink one day...they get mean. I saw my own father say mean and hurtful things to my mom and this guy did it to me. Now he wants to talk..and for what? I only see him spiraling downhill. He acknowledged he needs to slow down, but he didn’t acknowledge he has a problem. I think I enabled him all this time. We were starting to do other things (dates not in the house) but it was short lived. No wonder he started to have issues with libido..in any event, I’m not going through what my mom did..I have to see him for who he really is, not what he pretended to be.