It's a hard habit to break, eating your feelings to ease others, when your formative years were spent doing that to survive. When you had to stay high in someone's good opinion just to get food or not get hit or not be the one raged at. I'm not saying it's impossible, I have certainly come a long way in not people pleasing but I also seriously struggle anytime someone disagrees with me in allowing my own feelings and opinions to continue to have weight, and not just rolling over because I want to get along. And then being okay if the ends that relationship because we cannot agree.