It does sound like he has a drinking problem. Eek. So, my dear, what are you going to do? You sounded so strong and resolute in your first post. You deserve so much more than this. I believe you know this. No one can hold us back or hostage. You need to make a decision to stay or leave and if you leave, make it a clean break. Just know what you truly want and deserve .. is this guy giving that to you? From all you’ve written, it seems the answer is no. Cut ties. You can do this!!