Una, I read this in the process of checking posts this morning and I keep thinking about it. I wonder if you'd mind expanding on it a little for me? That is, how did you finally get free of it?

I ask because I feel very much this way all the time, though I'm not sure my parents did anything deliberately to keep me on the treadmill. My mother after my dad died, maybe.

But for sure whatever I do is never CLOSE to enough. While I'm trying to do something a little voice keeps telling me, "you can't do it. you'll never finish." And when I've completed a task, do you think I hear "Attagirl?" Absolutely not. Before I finish one task I'm already being presented with another set of tasks, with the accompanying goad that I "won't be able to do it."

Well, that wasn't a very brief message, was it? Guess I got on a roll. Actually, maybe I should have posted it as a notification... Don't know.... thanks...