Patterns never lie. Never.

OF COURSE THE PROOF IS IN HIS ACTIONS 100%!

When you're ready, you'll leave that relationship. Right now, it doesn't seem like you want to give up on him yet. I can understand the pull to stay. I did. I paid for it with 2 years of my life wasted on a man who never loved me like he said he did; who LIED about being faithful (he was sleeping with another woman the entire time he was with me), and when I caught his lies on his cellphone (texts between him and the other woman) instead of owning up to his lies and deceit, he tried to keep the focus off himself by focusing on how my snooping was a violation of his privacy. My belief is: if I'm in a relationship with you, I have 100% access to your cellphone anytime I want it (and you have access to mine) because there is transparency and nothing to hide.

I also dated alcoholics. They were all nasty trainwrecks.

Draw a line in the sand. What is enough to make you leave him?