I’m sorry to hear of your situation. Thanks for your bravery in sharing. You are not alone. Im in my mid 30s and have been once about 5 years ago. My T helped. She actually suggested a doctor (her own, this was helpful to me but I understand others might find it uncomfortable). She told me in general what would happen. Before the actual appointment, I went to the OBGYN building twice. The first time I just sat in the parking lot and looked at the building. The second time I went into the office, told them about my anxiety, and asked to see the exam room. They were nice and gave me a little tour. Also, no men allowed for me. And Xanax was taken. Hopefully this gives you some ideas about making things less terrifying.

It’s time for me to go again, but now I live in a different state with different doctors. Maybe new T can help. A referral from a good friend has helped some, but not enough for me to actually go.