Well breaking away from a toxic source is never fun. But when you realize there are eligible, healthy, normal, reciprocative, respectful single men just waiting to date you rather than this messed up guy, you need to decide if it's a risk you're willing to take. Otherwise, stay stuck with this dead end, whatchamacallit b/c its sure not what a relationship is supposed to look like. Nope. He doesn't want to get help. He wants to be miserable. He wants to make you miserable. He will use you as his closest emotional abuse target, in person, on the cellphone, on the computer only as long as you allow it. Once you prioritize yourself and really see that you are better than he is, you'll find the strength to leave and won't let him reel you back in because you know there's better men out there. The world is gigantic. Is he worth any more time wasted? Your time is valuable. Are you?