I am a woman who is much like your wife. And I feel horrible for the ***** I do to my husband. I know what I'm doing is wrong, yet I still do it, and I feel like a worthless piece of crap because of it, yet I still keep doing it.

I don't really know what to suggest. Perhaps FORCE her into therapy, although, if it's forced, I wonder how much good it will do. I dont' know. Try couples counseling if you wish. Or if she refuses to go even when you take the time to make the appointments and all that...then just cut her off. Leave. Maybe that is the rude awakening she needs to realize she has to take control of her life.

You may also want to ask her therapist about Borderline Personality Disorder. Impulsive behavior, risky sex, is one symptom. And in some people, severe dissociative symptoms. Could be her. I don't know. I'm not a professional....just another crazy woman kinda like your wife.