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Originally Posted by healingme4me
This stood out to me, in regards to things 'rolling off backs'. IRL, I am that type where things don't seem to phase me. I'm calm in what seems like an emergency. For me, it's a lifetime of some type of internal defensive mechanism. It's a coping skill created through much hurt feelings through the years and whatever else lays beneath the surface of my life story.
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See I am calm in an emergency situation... type of thing.
But when someone does me wrong.. it seems I see it.
While my friend like actually doesn't see that someone did him wrong. It is like he sees the behavior but doesn't see it as a slight against him.
I can't tell if he has the problem or I do. But I think I do.
It is funny I have had a lifetime of hurt starting from when I was a kid and my friend hasn't. So you might think it would be the other way around. But because he has never really had people be cruddy to him he doesn't see when people are being cruddy. While I have had a life time of it so I see it immediately.