I can see why it would be troublesome that your friend would not acknowledge bad behavior. I don't let it slide, per se. I do try to not let it eat me up in the moment. One example came to mind after posting this, the other day is something my oldest son said to his friends one night when I was driving the group of them somewhere. His friend commented, 'Your mom let's you listen to this [Music]? And my son began with , "Oh she doesn't care". And then added without any prodding..."it's not that she doesn't care, it's that she actually likes this[music]."

It was a profound, for me, moment. It's not that I don't care or that I condone bad behaviors or anything. I will distance myself at the appropriate moments or speak up for myself at the appropriate moments.

I just had a work moment in the middle of a meeting where someone created a most awkward moment because she began to whine or whatever that is where she wasn't getting her way due to her own neglect to details and was pushing it off in my direction and scuttlebutt had it that my calm was the right way to go. I'm not a mind reader and have my own work to worry about and not having time to even begin to correct the errors continuously of others. And it literally reminded me of my mom calling my grandmother to convince my grandmother to convince me to do something my mom's way. I wasn't having any of that then either. I was 32.