I think that being kind is not a fluctuating state and if I met with a therapist I felt was unkind, I would probably end therapy with him/her rather quickly.


You could give a therapist a second chance if something happens from a misunderstanding, mixed up session times and similar. But you can´t change a therapist´s (or another person´s) personality and by that I most probably wouldn´t keep seeing an unkind therapist.

To me being unkind as a therapist means that he/she ignores the client´s will and needs, a therapist that prioritizes his/her own agenda before listening to what the client wants. It can mean all sorts of ignorant behavior like being late often, answering to private phone calls during session, ending sessions to early, not following the client to the door when the session is up and so on.

All of this is not something that can be easily changed, it won´t work if a client needs to ask for all of those things. If the right attitude or kindness isn´t there from the beginning, I don´t see second chances as possible.