I never found therapists to be particularly kind. I was not looking for such from them. The woman did express surprise that I did not find her kind, but she was known to act for effect. I believe in using them for what they can be useful for and if that means hiring one for one thing and another for something else, then I would do it. Therapists do not get to dictate with whom I associate.

I am not sure how one keeps another from feeling anything. I can't imagine why a therapist would bother getting angry with a client. It is not the therapist's life and the therapist does not get a stake in any decision a client makes. But if they felt angry it was not my problem.