Hi Medusax, did you take the time to do a friendship "postmortem" before you reach out to her? That is, did you weigh the good with the bad about your friendship? Be very clear with yourself about what that deal-breaker was for you, that ended your friendship with her. There is a chance she probably hasn't changed...at all. Most people never change. If you do go through with reconnecting to her and she reciprocates, take it very slowly. Start out as acquaintances again. You need to take your time to rebuild your trust with each other, if she is interested in trying to be friends with you again.

Speaking from personal experience, I used those steps to try to rekindle several broken friendships, but each reconnection ended the same way it had before with each former friend: badly. We couldn't let go of our past grudges, past hurts, the pain we caused each other. So, for me, once I let go of a friendship now, I no longer think about that person. Women can hold grudges against each other FOR YEARS whereas men don't even remember what color socks they wore the day before.

Try using email or Facebook to reach out to her. Give her time to process and respond. If she agrees to try again at the friendship: great. BUT, proceed with caution. Do you know what is going on with her life right now? Timing is also key. Make sure you don't pressure her or have unrealistic expectations.