Marriage has nothing to do with wedding ceremonies. I can’t care less about ceremonies and had none but I am happily married. Some people have huge graduation parties but it doesn’t mean those who had no graduation party or didn’t walk on stage, don’t have their college degree. It’s silly. One has nothing with another.

And really if you don’t want to be married, don’t be.

Why bash institution of marriage? Frankly the only people who complain about institution of marriage are either in bad marriages or are very unhappily single and wished they were married. I am yet to meet happily married or happily single people bashing institution of marriage. It’s all projection.

OP, call off the wedding please. There is no law that people must be married. I was single and married. Both have value. Do what’s right for you but please unless you are thrilled to do it, don’t marry this woman just because she wants it