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Originally Posted by Sheffield
I’ve come many weeks late to this thread so the forum likely moved on but some thoughts anyway
No comment on my life or therapy experience so as not to derail
Majority of responders see this therapists comment as a big”red flag”-100 percent black and white fault
That may or may not be the case but as trauma survivors ( we are all still here if participating in this thread) we aren’t victims of every other “triggering” or retraumatising comment or situation in life-we don’t have a get out of jail free card and we do have responsibility in how we interact with others whether intentional or not.- if our comments are received negatively there has to be introspection after the event however “traumatised “ we feel— this is a hard and painful and oftimes lonely perspective to take from a place of pain but for me it is so important to move from victim to survivor mentality as there will always be another trauma around the corner
there is venting and venting and without being exposed to it I don’t believe I can comment on the therapists comment apart from the fact one can consider oneself to be an empath but still be inappropriate on occasion
On a personal note- I can retch from a look but I would not have been offended by the therapists comment- it would have stopped me in my tracks
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If “moving from victim to survivor mentality” is important for your healing then go ahead but dont judge others on how they define their identity or approach their own healing. Some people find power in identifying differently and I feel like your quotations around “traumatised” are dismissive to HD’s experiences which only they were present for.
and anyway telling someone they lack empathy is pretty damn harsh. Even if not intended to be. Psychopaths lack empathy. Abusers do. It’s telling an abused person they are more like their abuser.