Ok. I am having a really hard time and it's not even my faince's friend's bachelor party yet.

I ABHOR strip clubs, porn and all the male debauchery that goes on at men's bachelor parties. My fiance says he's not into this stuff.. anymore.

Now, there's a close friend of his who has a bachelor party coming up. I am kind of freaking out over the possibility of strip clubs and strippers, etc. Granted, I do not YET know the details.

But I don't know how to handle things IF and when this stuff is going to occur. He has more than one male unmarried friend, so this is going to come up again and again.

I know I cannot tell my fiance what to do. It's his friends, his friend's party, and I have to basically suck it up, be a good wife, and say "OK, honey, have a great time!!!" when I am literally DYING inside, crying and screaming "No, please don't go!!!!!"

I don't want my soon to be husband staring at other hot, naked women who are dancing all sexy and insinuating, coming onto him right in front of him. How absolutely insulting to ME. THAT'S HOW I FEEL.

But please do not bash me for how I feel. PLEASE. This is how I feel about it, and it literally makes me so sick to my stomach... just the thought of him being there staring at beautiful naked women, and possibly getting turned on by it.

So my question: HOW do women handle this???? Seriously? And I mean those women whom it bothers?

Also, PLEASE do me a favor, and don't tell me to NOT let it get to me, when it DOES get to me, FULLY. Thanks!

I am looking for support from women around this issue that many of us have to deal with.

And WHY do men even have to do this sexual ritual before they get married? I mean what the heck??

Thank you so much. I'm kind of freaking out.