Of course!

My therapist was of the “good enough mother” orientation, and her technique involved talking in a very soothing voice, long loving glances, flowery touchy-feely language etc. Way over the top by comparisson to other therapists I’ve seen.

It didn’t take long for this to trigger unmet childhood needs, and I started to long for more... like fantasizing about being physically held, longing to have her take me home and tuck me in to sleep, feeling the need to be in contact 24/7, or sobbing like a baby missing her when she went away on vacation or I was sick. These were intense and intrusive thoughts that occupied my brain nearly constantly. At my age it was humiliating and degrading to experience (especially talking about it TO her), regardless of how open other therapy clients might be to this or how normal it allegedly is.

She was never going to do any of these things, which felt passively rejecting and left me in a really bad state. Circling back to the topic of this post, being treated in a way that could trigger regression is not something I’ll tolerate anymore.

I feel like I’ve hijacked this thread enough but PM me if you want more details or have specific questions.