Sarah, I cannot thank you enough!!!!!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.

I feel very validated and assured that my feelings are not wrong, and it's not just me being insecure. I, too, have been to a female strip club just to see what happens there. And I witnessed it all. It's disgusting.

You're right. I should talk to him about this SOON.... and before specific plans are made. I have therapy tomorrow night too. I am going to run this by her to get her input as well on how to approach it with him.

But even the thought of him going hurts me deeply. It SUCKS.

And I agree with you about this ridiculous marriage ritual --- as though what? They're never going to have any sex ever again because they're married?!?!? And things can't get wild and crazy with their own wives????? It makes me SO ILL... especially the men who actually sleep with a woman/hooker before they get married!!! Which does happen. I know my fiance would never ever ever dream of doing something like that. I'm just saying it happens.

UGH. I am not looking forward to this conversation though, OR to him going to this bachelor party AT ALL. I am totally dreading it.