Okay, I personally feel as a man direct erotic gestures and visual stimuli are what it takes to reach arousal; well at least for me. Now from my experience i think it takes a more delicate touch and more romance to get a woman to reach arousal. But that’s also from my experience.
When it comes to sexual preference I think it is more acceptable for a woman to bisexual than a man. Which could be because of the macho stereotype men are faced with.