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Old Apr 15, 2019, 08:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Abusedbysister View Post
This is a good topic and difficult to talk about. I think this happens in most cases of abuse whether physical abuse, sexual or verbal abuse. In many cases, it is done all the time and people either ignore it or turn a blind eye to it. In some cases, the victim is blamed.

I totally relate to this topic. My parents knew about my sister’s abuse and did nothing serious to stop it. They also blamed me for losing fights to a girl. She interpreted that she could do whatever she wanted with me, especially if they were not home. She knew I couldn’t go to them afterwards to get help.
Hi Abusedbysister,

I like how you explained that this can happen in most cases of abuse. The more I research abuse dynamics the more I agree with this point.

I am heartbroken to hear how your family failed to protect you from your sister. Were you ever able to get an apology or any form of validation from family? If not, did you find validation from fellow survivors in that your experience of invalidation was so similar?

When you went to your parents and explained to them what was going on, did they ever validate you?

Your family normalized abuse. They failed you.

Thanks,
HD7970ghz
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