I wouldn’t love that comment either if I were in your shoes. I wonder if she was just being a bit clumsy though in trying to articulate some kind of shift she’d noticed in your state of mind or in your way of coping or talking about things.

Like perhaps it came across as praising you for not crying (which, I agree, odd) but what she may have meant was something along the lines of, “it seems like you’ve really got this now, this thing that previously had such a hold on you is now not so huge or scary.”