I think it’s probably a good idea in whatever conversation you have with your therapist about transference that you express what you’re fearing too. I don’t view it as a switch that your therapist is automatically going to turn off. The key part of the paragraph focuses on client distress tolerance, which requires a lot of checking in with both you and your therapist to make sure you aren’t processing the distance negatively and are doing okay.

The thing is, the progression of therapy should naturally go in this direction anyway - for all clients. Something to think about is that many people may need to get even closer before distancing happens! The path to autonomy can take many years and the progression to independence might be really slow. The long term goal for most clients is total distance since therapy has to end eventually. It can be a pretty scary thought if you’re not in a ‘separation’ mindset yet, which to me reads that you’re somewhere earlier in the process.

Hopefully your therapist can be sensitive to both your needs and in helping you in your journey.