I'm not sure my T knew how to handle attachment and he had his own feelings involved, so instead of doing anything distant with me, he got closer and closer. I am fearful/avoidant and that is NOT normal for me at all, it was very scary in some ways but also a good experience, although I don't want it again

With baby T, I have just said "I'm avoidant" and we don't talk much about it, he feels detached himself. Which I like because it's so easy for me to remain in my comfort and not attach.

With t3, he was chatting a bit about attachment and where it comes and why I am avoidant etc, he seemed knowledgable but I only saw him 2x, although he's already started ignoring my emails so he's apparently working on distance with me. Which is fine but it's only going to keep me distant, in some ways I think T was right in pushing for the close.

Anyway, not EVERY T will do the distance, not every T is even knowledgable about it, you don't even have to tell them what type you are, it isn't needed info for them but if you choose to, hopefully they handle it in a way that works well for you.