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Default Apr 16, 2019 at 08:35 AM
 
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
It sounds to me like you handled this situation very well. You may have initially overlooked the red flags because you wanted this so badly. I think most all of us tend to do this.

5 months seems like the healthy amount of time to let those warnings add up and end it like you did.

Two of my addicts never said they loved me. They were honest. And I kept hanging on in desperation that they would fall, pathetically too long.

Yours said it but then didn’t show it.

My break up style is to not contact him. Why would someone contact someone to tell them they don’t want to see them again? If he called me again, I would tell him it’s over and why.

I agree it gives them satisfaction if you contact them. So I wouldn’t. But whatever makes you feel good is what you should do. This guy has been a creep. He really doesn’t deserve much kindness. I’m against blocking though unless he’s harassing you.

Great job figuring this out so quickly and moving on to healthy!
I think people with an addiction are mean spirited in general. He said our personalities don’t mix well. Guess not, being I am not a cruel person lol...he hid it well, but it’s been coming out more as his drinking habits became more evident.
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