I was not thrilled by my therapist tonight. She did not sympathize much and pretty much said, "well that's just what men do". I was like "thanks". Clearly you could care less about these things. Sometimes I think she's very good, then other times I think she doesn't get me at all. Basically, she was very little help on this issue. The one thing she said was wait until more plans come to fruition, and trust your fiance's judgement first. Allow him to know you trust his judgement. Something like that.