Has anyone known someone who may have treated you or others poorly in the past receive the same treatment? If so, did you feel bad for them or did you not care as much since they were treating you or someone else the same way? I've known people who have treated me poorly, such as ignoring me in social situations on purpose while only talking to me one-on-one. Other times I've been gossiped about. Even though a lot of that has subsided by now, I have seen some people who I still know from back then receive the same treatment.

The person who ignored me in social situations but was fine with me one-on-one hates it when people do that to her and, understandably so, gets very upset. Same for those who have been gossiped about. Now with people who never treated me or others poorly in a deliberate manner, I may feel more sympathetic and understand where they're coming from. But with people who are complaining about receiving the same treatment that they have given me or others, I don't feel as bad.

I can understand their feelings, but at the same time, I will be thinking, well that's what you used to do so hopefully this is a learning lesson. I know it sounds rude but that's just how I think. Do you have less sympathy for those who receive the same poor treatment that they have given others? I can still agree with what they say. It is a horrible feeling to be gossiped about or be ignored, but at the same time, if they treated someone the same way, then I will actually think it is sort of a learning lesson and may even get them to not act that way towards anyone else. Does anyone else have this mindset? No one should be treated this way, but if someone is treating others poorly and they get the same treatment, I feel like it could be a learning lesson and may even get them to stop acting the way they do.

The person who treated me poorly in social situations no longer treats me like that anymore. She is nice to me both one-on-one and social situations. So I think she may have matured and learned which I'm glad. But for other people who I really don't associate with anymore, they clearly never changed so my sympathy for them goes out the window when they receive the same poor treatment they give others. Those who really haven't changed are those who gossip a lot. They seem to think they can gossip about others but get super mad when others gossip about them, or if they just think others might be gossiping about them. In some cases, no one is and they are just assuming they are being talked about either due to knowing that what they are doing is wrong or just paranoia.