You posters may not have seen that the original poster started another thread which further expresses his lack of direction at this point in his life. I really wish people wouldnt start a different thread on exactly the same subject within the same time frame. People who respond to a post take their time genuinely trying to help. Some of the feedback might be a little uncomfortable, but some of the posters have a lot of experience with a particular issue. Don’t sabotage your likelihood of getting really relevant tips by starting a different thread giving information which would have helped posters to better understand the situation. Then there are two threads in which we dont reallly have the whole picture. We need to understand the situation to give relevant advice. On the second thread, people continued to caution this young man to slow down and give this more thought. In a situation like this someone could title a second thread: update thoughts on getting married ,something like that.