I am impressed by the good answers given by women on this thread. I hadn't thought this through myself before so I appreciate especially how clearly Divine1966 contradicted the idea that "all men are like that". Isn't it great to hear about some sane male-female bonding!!!

Your therapist has a right to her personal opinion, but I think you have some great answers here from women which contradict her. Divine made me realise that we (women and men) both have choice about how we express sexuality, we don't have to do stuff because someone brainwashes us with "everyone does that".

thanks all!